Xmas are approaching! Isn’t this time to celebrate? Not for everybody. If you are single fearing becoming alone during the holidays, your might want the festivities to make sure you pass as quickly as possible. “No time period of the year might be so dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to be with, things would have also been different”, you whisper to yourself time and again.
The secret to help you doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you were not able to develop a successful intimacy so far; what made most people fail in your relationships until recently. Is it really so that you simply didn’t come across partners who were good enough for you? Is it seriously so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible so you might develop and maintain a successful intimacy?
Using the holidays’ time for you to figure out what are the true factors behind your inability to have a severe, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, can be described as time well-spent. The insights you’ll gain will help you find a suitable partner by means of whom to develop and maintain a successful intimacy.
Or you might find out that you haven’t been successful obtaining a partner until now not since no “suitable” partner originated your way, but because you ended up being over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for 1 reason or another); and also that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you went out with that they terminated the partnership; or that you were as a result controlling and demanding more and more of your dates just denied your attempts to getting closer and maybe even to relocating together.
Use the holiday season to figure out how not to be alone next year. It may seem that such advice is ridiculous. Why to think about after that year when this year’s holidays are approaching? Associated with simple: if you have been single for a long time, what guarantee have you seen that you will not be one next year as well?
Could it really be for which you did all you could to find a partner with whom to cultivate a good relationship but don’t have luck? Well, all these can serve you as arguments and rationalizations to not being a success. But is it really the lawsuit? Or could there be other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that an issue in you hinders and prevents you from which has a successful relationship?
Why is you think that between sometimes a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful rapport? If you have been failing for having a wonderful relationship as yet, what are the odds that you will succeed in having one next 12 months?
The odds probably do not job in your favour! Therefore, it is up to you to do something on the subject of your situation. Therefore, you may want to operate the holidays this year to figure out steps to create a change for next 12 months! How can you use this year’s holiday season to become able to have a bond next year?
Using the holiday seasons to think these over may also help you understand the true reasons for the failures. You might find, for example, that you have patterns of behaviors of which repeat themselves throughout every one of your past-relationships which always brought about conflicts between you and unfortunately your partners.